Yesterday, Jen from Life with Levi posted the picture below on her Facebook page, with the intention that the message at the bottom of the picture would be seen and moms could be more supportive of each other, instead of lashing out at each other for the decisions they make or don’t make.
Unfortunately, the opposite happened. Instead, many people ignored that message and it turned into a war about circumcision, with lots of name calling and judgment.
Check out the comments here, if you’re interested.

This led Jen to start a meme for us moms to let the world know just “how horrible” we are.
So here it goes…
Reasons Why I am a SUPER SUPER Crappy Mom!
I did not take my prenatal vitamins when I was pregnant.
I drank coffee and pop while I was pregnant.
We tell the kids the truth about Santa, Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy, etc.
I breastfed my first 2 babies for only a couple of months and then quit.
I breastfeed my 3rd & 4th babies longer and also supplemented with formula.
I started my first 4 babies on rice cereal at 4 months.
I will not give my 5th baby solid food until after 6 months of age.
My kids have cell phones.
I kiss my babies feet way too much, I love their feet. Even when my 3.5 year old has stinky feet… I still kiss them all day long.
I am breastfeeding and still drink coffee and pop.
I stopped vaccinating my kids when they were 8, 7, 6 and 1 year old.
I have not vaccinated my baby at all.
I do not give my kids medicine for fever.
I rear-face my 3.5 year olds car seat.
I pick my baby’s booggies.
I do not medicate my son who has ADHD.
I try to use all natural cleaning products in my home, but am still addicted to Clorox wipes.
I cloth diaper. Most of the time.
I use disposables at night because I am too lazy to wake up to change his diaper.
Sometimes I leave my older kids at home by themselves and ‘run errands’ in the evening with Mike and the babies because I need a break from all the chaos… even though I come home empty handed.
I co-sleep until my babies are 7 months old.
I hold my babies way too much.
My 3.5 year old still sleeps in a crib in my room.
My 3.5 year old will not eat much food, so I let her eat yogurt all day long.
I teach my kids about Jesus.
I pop open vitamin D pills and squirt it into my 3 month olds mouth because he has a cold.
I bought sugar cereal all summer long for my older kids.
I make my older kids clean the house every day after school.
I buy all of my families name brand clothes at a resale shop.
I spanked my older kids.
I let my hubby feed Gracie too much sugar foods even though I hate it.
Every so often, I spank my 3.5 year old.
I use fabric softener and regular detergent because my mom gave me a 5 gallon bucket for free.
I wash the baby clothes with my clothes.
I kiss my babies way too much.
When we are out in public, I let my hubby take my daughter to the bathroom even though I know he isn’t careful with her when it comes to germs and the toilet seat or other yucky things in the bathroom.
I let me 3.5 year old sleep in her clothes sometimes because she wants too and I don’t want to hear her throw a fit.
We pray with our kids when they are afraid of monsters or ghosts in the middle of the night.
All of my kids slept with a bottle until they were 1 or 2 years old.
I circumcised my first son.
I did not circumcise my second son.
I pierced all of my girls’ ears when they were all 2 months old.
I let my 3.5 year old bring a sippy cup to bed until she was 3 – even though it was making her leak through her diaper.
I do not potty train. The kids potty train themselves.
I bathed and showered with all of my babies.
Our television is on all day long weather the kids watch it or not.
The kids are eating chips right now, as I sit here typing this.
I am not a super, super crappy mom.
I love my kids with my whole being and I could not function without them, I love them so so much!
You are not a crappy mother either, regardless of how you raise them.
Stop the Mommy Wars!
Thanks for reading!

LOL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteWow I LOVE THIS!!! I hate when moms bash each other!! How do you know I didn't have a medical problem when my son turned 6 weeks and HAD to stop breastfeeding??? I had moms bash me for quitting....HELLO I MEDICALLY HAD TO!! People need to mind their own business and just hug and kiss their own babies!! :)
ReplyDeleteLove it! And Ive done some of this stuff too and my kids are well adjusted 20 somethings now!
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Amazingly so I had tears swelling up as I read this. I guess I am a super crappy mom as well, And proud of it!
ReplyDeleteagreed.let the first perfect mom step forward. as for circumcision-its nobody's business.i can give you an entire page list of things probally should not have done.ill share just one.i use ti feed my 10 month old infant daughter those soft ,salty chip things that are yellow and melt in your mouth while out shopping.it kept her quiet and gave me peace.shelfish mabe.shes 22 now and it seemed to have no effects.i think it depends how they are raised more than the the things you should not have done.my children are now 30,22 and 18 and seem to be just fine as are some of their children.
ReplyDeletemy kids LOVE popcorn twists!
DeleteLove it! We all do things differently and raise our kids the way that best suits us, as parents, and them as individuals. I only breastfed my kids for a month, I cloth diaper but use disposables at night, I didn't cloth diaper my first kid at all, Nick Jr or kid movies run in my house from 7:30 a.m. til 7:00 at night (we're already on Lorax for the third time today), I started both my kids on solids just before they were 4 months old, I don't always make my daughter brush her teeth twice a day, I give my son tylenol for teething, I don't drop my 3 year old off at hourly care EVER b/c I don't trust random people with my children, I let my 6 month old have a taggie blanket and 5 stuffed animals in his crib b/c I think the idea that a kid could suffocate and die on stuffed animal is ludicrous. I'm sure there's a whole list of other things I do as a parent that other parents would look down on. POINT IS...we're all different and just because someone doesn't raise their kids the same way that you do doesn't mean they don't love their children more than life itself. Before we criticize other parents, we should take a big look at ourselves b/c nobody is perfect and unless someone is abusing or neglecting their children we should leave them the hell alone and keep our noses out of their family business. :)
ReplyDelete*Gasp* You drank soda while pregnant? Shame on you! (As I sit here drinking a Diet Coke at 13 wks pregnant...it's caffeine free, this time). Oh and I had a frappucino yesterday - that wasn't caffeine-free. Hehe.
ReplyDeleteGlad I know that you are NOT a super crappy mom... just the opposite!
thanks for posting- i loved it-
ReplyDeleteI love this and the idea
ReplyDeleteWell written, here's to super crappy moms everywhere, lol!
ReplyDeleteThis is a riot!!!! I agree that while we may not always be perfect or do the right things. However, we all love our children. Everyone needs to worry about themselves and not worry over if someone has done something they do not agree with!!
ReplyDeleteAs mothers alot of us spend far too much time criticizing ourselves and comparing ourselves to other mothers. It's not fair to us or our children. Love this post. There are no wrongs or rights as long as the intention to love and nurture is there.
ReplyDeleteThis was so neat to read, you are not a crappy mother and you are so great to share your story with us. Your kids are adorable!
ReplyDeleteLove it!!!!! I recently found out I am a crappy mom because I wont enroll my 3-year-old in all day school.
ReplyDeleteLove it! And I love that you are comfortable enough to admit it because when it comes down to it, you love your kids and you are there for them and you take care of them...therefore you are an awesome mom! This mom-bashing crap is exactly that crap!
ReplyDeleteI commend you for speaking up!!!
ReplyDeleteI love it! My kids slept with me for years...I was a single mom with my daughter and she slept with me until she was 9 because we only had 1 bed and 1 room. My son slept with my husband and I until he was 5 then would sleep with me when his dad was gone or he was scared. We all do things that others don't agree with but for the most part most of us try to teach our children to love, comfort them and teach them to be fantastic grown ups. My son is 14 and I tell him "real" life stuff-things that most people would be mortified to hear but I would rather he hear it from me than someone else. Great post!
ReplyDeleteI love it! My kids survived all kinds of things just like we did - and neither I or our mothers were Crappy Mothers! Sometimes I think that we are "criticized" by others, not because we are doing something "wrong" but because they want to feel better about what they are doing that is "different" than what we are doing.
ReplyDeleteLevi still sleeps with a sippy cup. I don't worry about it. We're also letting him potty train himself.
ReplyDeleteI'm interested about the Easter Bunny/Santa thing. You just prompted a new question for my FB page tomorrow :)
I'm in the same camp as you. I did some of the things you did, but not all. I'm fine with that. It doesn't make either of us a better mom than the other. It means we love and parent our kids uniquely. BTW My 13 yo son went to bed fully clothed tonight. Surprisingly, the world hasn't ended! <3
ReplyDeleteLOL, I loooove this! And thank you for being so honest and real.
ReplyDeleteBtw, I still smell my son's feet even though they are stinky! And he's almost 4 years old. HA!
You horrible soda drinker you. :) I am a fellow cherry coke addict following you.
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Saw so man things I do too!! Love your list and you're a GREAT MAMA!!
ReplyDeleteSorry for tha crap-tastic comment, I was trying to multitask! Lol LOVE your pictures too! I need to take more pictures of me WITH the kids!! Love the post!
ReplyDeleteYou are a very good woman! I had my crappy moments also, but I got mine to 18, I told them it was their responsibility now! lol
ReplyDeleteI felt as if I were reading my autobiography! Love it!
ReplyDeleteI didn't take prenatal vitamins at all with my third child... All of them are pretty healthy still!
ReplyDeleteYour list is very interesting to me. That's a pretty cool meme!
ReplyDeleteThis is great! Im going to share! Its so true how moms are so critical of each other and in reality who really knows best???!!!???
ReplyDeleteIt sounds to me like you are a great mom, and I think it's wonderful that you put yourself out there! I do/ have done many of the things you wrote but dont talk about them for fear of being cut down. I wish other mothers weren't so critical, it would make finding friends a lot easier!
ReplyDeleteso sad that the discussion turned into judgement. Every mom is great and does the best for their child. but since we are listing the ways we are "horrible moms" well today i had my son circumcised so i guess i've become one too! lol and i also haven't breastfed my baby. Geez I'm a really bad one! but i love him more than anything and i have veyr good valid reasons why i chose that to be the best for him :)
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Amazing!!! I absolutely love this!!! Thanks for sharing!
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